Winning an argument with a flourish

The other day Tim and I were having one of our “deep” conversations and I asked him if he thinks it is weird that we haven’t had a real argument yet.  We disagree on things but typically it’s kind of ridiculous and we end up laughing about it.

For example:  

Tim has been having muscle cramps so he talks about eating more bananas.  I tell him that’s an old wives tale.  That he needs more water and more potassium, but that bananas aren’t the best source.  He goes to try to prove me wrong and googles it (insert eye roll here) and finds an article that says they are good for preventing muscle cramps.  So of course I have to google him back with several articles. He diplomatically points out that each article says that bananas are a good source of potassium and that they can help prevent cramps. So I clarify, pointing out an article that says, “For a week you would need to stock up with more 10-12 bunches of bananas. You would be competing with Curious George in banana consumption to keep your daily allowance satisfied." Of course he has to come back with how he loves Curious George.  At this point it is game on and the game must be won through humor and sarcasm.  So I hit him with three memes.  

His response is that I’m so funny.  So I hit him with another.

To which he responds something about me being amazing.

Last response was just “hurry home”.  Melissa for the win.

Now… in all seriousness, we are going on 9 months without an actual argument to speak of.  Both Tim and I have talked about it.  We know that at some point we are going to disagree on something that is a big deal and probably going to have words.  I mean, it’s inevitable, right?  

But I have to say, that there is something completely different being in a relationship at our age. A person has learned so much. You learn what is important, and it isn't winning an argument. (For all my teasing earlier.) It isn't all about never challenging your partner either. It's about being able to listen to each other's viewpoint knowing that no matter win or lose, the important thing is that your partner feels that their opinion is valued and considered. And you sure learn to balance what is a big deal and what isn't. And of course it helps that Tim has the patience of a saint.